The Social Me

            It is difficult not to care what others think about us because others’ opinions mean so much to us. We are so worried about the way others view us that their opinion is very important to us. Our worry about what others care about us fuels how we act and carry ourselves. Everything we do is in reaction to how others act towards us. We don’t control the way that others see and think about us, but we do the best we can do make others see and think about us in a positive way. We often times change ourselves to meet the opinions of other people. It is not possible for us to control the opinions of others, but we do our best to make their opinions be positive. Everyday we get dressed thinking of what others will think about our outfits that day. One may wake up and chose an outfit that he/she knows someone else will like. We are entitled to want to please other people and make them think highly of us. We are so preoccupied worrying about what others think about us that we usually lose ourselves in the process. We base all of our actions on how others will react towards them. We cannot directly control others’ opinions about us but indirectly, we do so by acting or carrying ourselves a certain way to make their opinion about us change. Even when people are trying not to conform or meet the desires of others, we do so unconsciously. The opinion of those around us is as important as breathing. What others think about us determines how we live. Once a feeling has been made towards you, you will accept that feeling and live according to that feeling. It seems that whatever others think about you is what you are because you make yourself what they think you are. It is a continuing process of wanting to make others like/accept you, and one is never truly able to escape it, even after death.